Newton’s First Law of Motion states that a body at rest will remain at rest unless an outside force acts on it, and a body in motion at a constant velocity will remain in motion in straight line unless acted upon by an outside force.
What does this have to do with hairdressing and education? Well luvvies, think about this…when is the last time you burned the candle at both ends? We work long days behind the chair, sometimes 12+ hours, standing, hustling, engaging, supporting and often we don’t eat or stop to pee. I learned a valuable tool from my dear friend Andi to help remind myself of the most important thing in the world. She was speaking about our caring for others needs as we would shelter puppies and how too often we neglect our own shelter puppy!! It was a lightbulb moment for me as I let that sink in. How many times did I not take a) drink of water all day, b) eat breakfast or lunch, c) rest when I was tired or sick? Too many times and as you read this, I’m sure there are more examples…..
Grounded….it used to be such a negative thing. Remember when you got ‘grounded’ as a child?? It meant privilege taken away, no freedom, and punishment. It was something our parents or caretakers could do to us, because they said so. Having the experience grounding my own child was a strange feeling of power and sadness all at the same time…..but I began to understand that it wasn’t so much a punishment as an opportunity. Perhaps we really do need time to breathe, think things through and grow from choices we have made, good or not so good. Being grounded was about stopping and being present….truly a gift. The next time I had to ground my son, the packaging was different. It was a conversation about understanding the action and making strides to avoid repeating the same challenge too many times. He wasn’t “in trouble” but instead, in solution.
As an adult, grounded means something very different. It’s a term used to explain everything from delayed flights to spiritual enlightenment and all are valid. What does the word grounded mean to you?
I use a lot of energy in my professional and personal life and it is vital that I ‘drop in’ to myself on a regular basis. Taking the time to stop, collect my thoughts, rejuvenate my mind and body has given my gifts I could not have imagined. To unlock those doors, I had to be willing to change my perspective. My daily mantra is BE, DO, HAVE. It simply means I must really BE myself first, and then I can DO. Whatever I HAVE from those actions is solely based on where I BEgan. So, how do we find that place of BEing?
For me, it’s not one thing. Sometimes it’s yoga, sometimes it’s mediation and other times it’s my favorite reset, a big bubble bath. A good session at the salt float tank is great for my body and mind. The lack of distraction is not for everyone but I enjoy the silence. It feels like what I imagine a celestial being experiences….untethered and yet held more completely than anything on earth. A spiritual womb, perfect for rebirth, rejuvenation and new beginnings.
Meditation is a great way to quiet the mind and the body! I’m not a naturally calm person so sitting still, silently, chasing my thoughts is actually stressful. I took a free mediation class at my local yoga studio (check your local listings, most studios have this option!!!) and it changed my perspective. I found use of sound bowls, a really cool Chaka tuning app and being outside were my keys to meditation. I am even able to enjoy a few moments of comfortable silence and I visualize my thoughts as a river, just flowing. Important ones bubble up, like eddies or big stones and the rest move on by.
I also believe in the power of the written word. It feels natural to me to express myself with pen and paper or computer keys. Sometimes, there is only a brief moment to jot down a thought but I’ve discovered the liberation that expression gives me. I’ve talked before about free writing and again challenge you beautiful humans to spend 3-5 minutes a day, just writing! Take a quiet moment and express yourself without judgement, fear, hesitation or concern for spelling. Let the words flow like the thoughts….the important ones will surface and the rest will pass by gently. Let them go.
These are just a few ways I’ve found to check in with myself, connect to what’s important and reset. No one way is right or wrong, and the simple act of doing what feels good to you can be a perfect first step towards grounding yourself!!